My ADHD struggles and triumphs
WELCOME! I AM SO GLAD YOU HAVE FOUND MY WEBSITE!
Let me tell you a little about myself. I am a trailblazer, pioneer, and visionary disrupter. Fear is my best friend. When I see a truth, I bravely rise up to the occasion. I am on a mission to end the needless suffering that those (myself included) with ADHD go through and banish the ADHD stigma.
I know that I am making changes among the ADHD world here in the UK.
I am a a certified ADHD life coach and a Professional Organiser trainer. This is an unusual combination, even more so for the UK ADHD market.
Plus, I have written three self-help books and many training courses for professional ADHD women.
If that isn’t enough, I live with the internal and external challenges of disorganisation, chaos and internal overwhelm on a daily basis, and I will tell you, it is really difficult. You see, I have ADHD. If that isn’t enough, I am married, and mum of 5 children, with more than 1 ADHD child…
I am by far the most active and pioneering ADHD coach in the UK.
I am on the path to get my PAAC accreditation, the only ADHD coaching credential in the world. I will be the first ADHD Life Coach in the UK to get PAAC accreditation.
Through many years of hard work and sheer will power I have turned my inner critic into my inner best friend. I live the successful ADHD life. Even with my busy family life, and the mess that is constantly being created, there is only ever one layer of mess in my home…I still live from one self-made crisis to the next, and they are many… I use the ADHD tools that I learned along my journey to guide my clients and trainees to handle the internal overwhelm and manage their chaos.
I realised early on, that getting organised and learning to manage my time was the root of my personal and busines success. I searched high and low for the answers to my disorganised inner and outer chaos. I couldn’t find those answers anywhere. I read so many self-help books on decluttering and home organisation. They did not resonate with me, they actually made me feel worse.
THE START OF MY ADHD TRANSFORMATION
I was overwhelmed with the many demands from my job and my family. I wanted a career that I would find fulfilling, and that I would be making a difference to the lives of my clients. I wanted a career that would allow me to create my own hours that would work for my growing family. One day I was reading a magazine, and I saw an advert for a Professional Organiser training program. I didn’t turn the page. My inner voice told me that even in my disorganised chaos, this is what I needed. I needed to learn this as a career and thereby help myself. I impulsively signed up on the spot! (I lived with terrifying fear of the unknown for two months until the program started…)
This 5 session basic training program was the springboard for my life change. In those 5 weeks I turned over my entire home, and filled a skip with my clutter… When my home was finally decluttered and organised, I felt so light, and focused. I felt liberated beyond belief.
At the same time, I realised that most of my clients displayed similar patterns of behaviour and internal challenges. I read up about this and I realised I was looking at undiagnosed ADHD/ADD in women. I wanted to help my clients find their ADHD success. I looked further to help them. There was no training program in the UK, so I went further afield to the USA.
during the start of the ADHD coach training program, I realised the source of my inner chaos and overwhelm – undiagnosed ADHD. This was the epiphany that changed my life.
I graduated and founded Focus with Faigy in 2015. I didn’t realise how behind the UK ADHD market is from the USA. I went through many tough times. As a pioneer, my journey was exciting, but lonely and beyond frustrating. A pioneer educates. This is my mission. For this reason, I am very active on social media.
I created the Focus Success Program. Find out more about it here.
Five years on I am still one of only a handful of certified ADHD coaches in the UK.
In 2019 I embarked on a dream, to support creative ADHD women in business. With Initially this was a monthly face to face meeting in Lloyds Bank in the centre of Manchester. Due to the massive stigma and shame that ADHD women I moved the mastermind online. This has proven to be a great success.
FOCUS WITH FAIGY AND ORGANISE PRO
I understood that there was simply no way that I alone could help so many women. I compiled the organising tools into a training program. Since an overwhelming majority of organising clients have ADHD, the business strategies, and the organising tools were all tailored for the ADHD brain. I was passionate about supporting the trainees due to my own difficult experiences with no support when setting up my business back in 2013 by offering mentoring sessions together with the training program.
The feedback from the training was phenomenal. In 2017 I moved the Organise Pro System online, offering Professional Organiser training for women worldwide. The program supports women to create a balanced life as they build their dream business. All tools address the largely unknown ADHD an executive function deficit.
THE ADHD ACCELERATOR PROGRAM FOR ADHD COACHES
In 2018 my mission found me. A certified coach approached me and asked me to train him as an ADHD coach. I agreed on the spot! Then I fell off the cliff! How on earth would I do this? I looked through my material and I realised that I had all the material plus some, to prepare this coach for his ADHD coach business set up.
I created the ADHD Accelerator Program, the only program in the world that supports coaches with the tools they need to come out of their own way and create their dream business.
My mission in this world is to empower ADHD women to embrace their many faceted roles and understand and celebrate who they are, to banish the shame and guilt, and bring in focus and clarity.
WHAT I HAVE LEARNED ALONG THE WAY
“Successful people make the most mistakes.” Since I have pushed through so many FEARS and moved so quickly along my career path, I have probably made more mistakes than the average woman. Success equals mistakes…
I don’t need to get my business to the perfect level, I just need to aspire to be good enough… (98% of my work with my clients is on combatting Perfectionism/Imposter Syndrome. It is a very strong ADHD trait.)
“The way you use your time equals your business success.” Your business success doesn’t happen in a flash of magic. It happens slowly, minute by minute by the seemingly small almost invisible choices that you make. Your decision to press the snooze button for that extra 10 minutes, means that you don’t manage to do your Yoga time that day. This directly impacts your productivity, creativity and overall mood. Yes, it’s not fair, but such is life…
To succeed in business, FEAR needs to become your constant companion. So many women mistakenly believe that if they experience FEAR then it is a sign that they need to back off. The opposite is true. If you are feeling fearful around a new business venture, and your FEAR is accompanied with some excitement, you are on the right track… FEAR is my best friend. I am constantly moving forwards in my career. I now put FEAR in my back pocket…and move through to the next stage. FEAR stands for false expectations appearing real. Fear is just a reaction to your false beliefs.
When you have moved through your FEAR, you see that there is no FEAR, just FOCUS and CLARITY.