It’s tough being an ADHD mum

Being a mum is challenging any day of the year. Being a mum of an ADHD teenager is much more challenging. Being a mum of an ADHD teenager, and having ADHD myself moves the role of being a mum into a completely different league.

 

My son has ADHD and I’m trying to get some funding and support for him for my social work here in the UK. There are two types of support. One is the social worker, a social worker who gets support for children with special needs.

 

It’s challenging enough. 

 

Looking after my child, I also need to make sure that I am accessing the available funding that is available to me. That is because these things are not shared with us and we need to do our own monthly digging and find out what help there is available. And you know, with my ADHD I try so hard to keep on top of all the paperwork and keep it stored in specific folders etc. I do my best to have everything on my laptop because papers somehow just have a life of their own. I could turn around and then the paperwork is gone. 

 

It’s disappeared. And who knows where, I do not know where it has disappeared to. So you see, because I have ADHD I also have a working memory deficit, which in a nutshell means I’m super-duper forgetful. 

 

What about you, friend?

 

There is a lot of knowledge and tools about this in my books on ADHD

 

So what am I saying, well last week, I got a very important form in the post and I do not understand why the social worker still insists on sending stuff by post instead of sending it by email. I do not understand and I never will. 

 

I put the paper away in a safe place. And then I said I will see to it in a few days because I was too stressed. And then two days passed.  And I couldn’t find it anywhere. I knew this piece of information was missing. I knew I put it somewhere in a safe place but I could not remember where, again, working memory deficit inaction and I didn’t know what to do. 

 

So do you know what I did? 

 

I buried my head in the sand for a couple of days with the uneasy horrible feeling accompanying me everywhere. 

 

Then I said, Faigy, it’s time to face the music. I just sent an email to my social worker and I apologised that I had misplaced that form. Please send me another one or even better email me one. And they did that day. 

 

Guess what?

 

I found the paper two days later in a super logical place like why didn’t I think that before? 

 

So why am I sharing all this with you? If you have ADHD and you have an ADHD child, please understand that your job is going to be doubly difficult. You need all the support that you can get. You are doing your best with the knowledge and tools that you had at this moment in time. Stop beating yourself up and start telling yourself – What a fantastic person you are. 

 

I am here cheering you on and rooting for you.

 

And I’m so proud of you. 

 

Join my FaceBook group for Creative ADHD business women who want to help each other be the best they can be, share their successes and learn tools to manage their ADHD.

 

You don’t need an ADHD diagnosis to join this group.
 

 

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